So I got to thinking....

I was reflecting on the conversation, rather, debate we had in class last night about Naomi's mother's behavior in the novel and whether or not she actually loved her daughter. Initially I felt like it was such an obvious answer: No, of course she doesn't love her, look at the way she treats her, let alone the way she treats Owen. After taking some more time to think about things I have changed my opinion. When someone brought up the notion that materialistic affection may have been the only way that Skla knew how to show love my mindset began to shift. I truly believe that that may have been a possibility. I actually have very close friends whose parents don't seem to know how to show love in a stereotypical fashion. Rather than passing out hugs, kisses, compliments, and praise, they dole out money and presents. I really thought the point about Skyla's own parents not being in her life was pertinent. How could she develop a sense for the manner in which to love her own children when she hadn't felt it herself? I believe that Clyde dictated a lot of what she did and without him she would be left feeling powerless and out of control. Although it was heartbreaking and infuriating to read, I'm just not sure that Skyla was capable of behaving differently.

The other point I wanted to bring up was about alcohol and whether or not Skyla's addiction to it should be a factor in her behavior. All I can say is that my dad was an alcoholic when I was a child, but I never knew it. There was never a moment I doubted his love for my sister and I and he never let his addiction affect his children's lives. I feel like it's a piss poor excuse to lean on, but again, because I'm not living her life I'm not sure I should be so quick to judge.

Just to clarify: I am in no way, shape, or form condoning Skyla's physical abuse of Naomi, shunning of Owen, and overall hainous acts throughout the book, but I am open to the possibility that with some help and guidance people can change.